Today, I looked at myself in the mirror and, like many days, I was grossed out by my reflection. I saw the things that need fixing. I’m starting to realize that my crappy opinion about how I look is solely mine, and it’s unfounded. I know others do not share my opinion. I know that when others look at me they see a young woman, some may even see a pretty young woman. So what gives? Why do I think I’m not pretty enough?
I searched for an answer, and here’s what I got:
We’ve been raised in a environment where people put emphasis on physical appearance. Our culture values pretty people (men and women alike). We see relentless ads, commercials, and campaigns that tell us that yes! there’s always something to fix! – “fix.” Like we’re not beautiful the way we are.
The perpetually vain peoples of ‘merica, the people who make $$ off of your insecurities and mine, are the only ones who will tell you that you need fixing. Funny thing is, if they can’t find something to fix, they’ll make something up! It started with “got acne? We can fix that!” and evolved into “are your eyelashes too thin? Use this to grow them!”
Fucking eyelashes? Seriously?!
Million bucks says that when most people look in the mirror, the first thing they think is that they need new eyelashes. NOT. But I bet after that commercial was aired, some people started thinkin’ about it.. and voila! A new insecurity was bred.
Let me tell you now.. No, your eyelashes are not too damn short or thin.
No, your acne is not the first thing people see.
No, your pale skin is not ugly, it’s gorgeous.
No, your teeth are not hideous, especially when you smile.
No, your hair is not stupid and it doesn’t need ten shades of red or blonde to look great.
No, long fake nails really aren’t that much better than real ones.
No, you are not too fat.
Your skin is beautiful because you wear it.
Your eyes are gorgeous because they’re a million different hues when someone gets close enough to look.
Your hair is what keeps your head warm, and it’s something fun to style, if you so choose.
Your hands are wonderful because they’re your contact with the world around you.
Your smile is the best ammunition you’ve got when you want to express happiness or to brighten someone’s day. Use it. Often.
Your acne (if you’ve got it) does not detract from how beautiful the rest of your features are, the features people always notice first.
Your weight is not a thing of beauty, it is a thing of health. I’ve seen plenty of gorgeous women who are thick, and I’ve been completely envious. If it bothers you to be overweight, don’t change because others tell you it’s more attractive, change because you want to be healthy.
You are beautiful.
Don’t ever let anyone tell you different.